6 Ways to Support Children with Separation Anxiety:

As school approaches, many emotions come up. The triggers that have been spoken about in my office the most is for kiddos being away from their parents. It can be tough for children who are having to be away from loved ones for a certain period of time. They may struggle with going to school, staying at a friends house for a playdate, separating to do a sporting activity, or when you are leaving for work. This can be very challenging, especially when you have other thing that need to get done and feeling guilty when you're having to leave your child while they are upset. There are ways to make this process easier.

Here are some ways to support children with separation anxiety:

1. Gradual introduction to separation: Start small! Gradually introduce the child to short separations, such as short trips to the grocery store, before moving on to longer separations, such as school or daycare. Once the big day comes, kiddo will feel prepared to navigate their worries and problem solve effectively, seeking out support if needed!

2. Consistent routines: Maintaining these may be challenging, however, it can be a huge strength when navigating through transitions of change. Establishing consistent routines in your home can help children feel secure and reduce separation anxiety. This can include set times for arrival and departure, and a consistent routine for activities before and after separation. Its true when they say, consistency is key!

3. Reassurance: Reassure your child that you will return and that they will be safe and cared for in your absence. This can include giving a special item to hold, such as a family photo, or creating a special goodbye ritual.

4. Encourage independence: School time is a good way to get your child involved! Encourage your child to participate in activities and make decisions on their own, which can help build their confidence and independence.

5. Play therapy: Play therapy can be supportive with providing a space for your child so that they can express their feelings and fears through play. This can be a helpful tool in managing separation anxiety with learned coping strategies.

6. Seeking outside support: It really does takes a village! If the separation anxiety becomes severe and is affecting the child's daily life, it may be helpful to seek outside support, such as counseling or therapy.

Understand that children can think and make up a scary scenario in their minds. Make sure to provide helpful communication and positive affirmations to support your child when they are having separation anxiety. During those moments of separation, it is important as a parent and caregiver to approach separation anxiety with patience, understanding, and empathy. Providing a supportive and secure environment, along with clear and consistent routines, can help children with separation anxiety feel more secure and confident. When children are able to worry less, they are able to focus more on the current situation, learn, and grow!